This is likely the most personal thing I’ve ever written that will be made available to a public audience, but I’m doing so for multiple reasons. First, I’m choosing not to hold this in any more. As an extrovert I often need to express myself in order to process through thoughts and emotions fully. Second, I want our entire family to have the smoothest, most informed, most efficient, and loving growth experience possible. I feel that as I open up more about this we’ll discover connections and resources to help in making this the most ideal process that we can make it for everyone involved. Lastly, which is actually most important, I want my future son/daughter to know just how much s/he is wanted by and welcome in our family. My hope is that some day re-reading these posts s/he’ll affirm what we’ve been teaching her/him all along.
For years, my husband and I have talked about our family and what we wanted it to look like in the future. How many kids would we have? Did we want a boy, a girl, both, multiple kids? Would we adopt or pursue surrogacy? How would our family & friends react? Would we buy a new house? Which of us would work, which would stay home? Would we hire a nanny or use daycare? What neighborhood would we live in? What names did we like? All of this talk was good-spirited and dream-like…kind of like a grade-schooler talking about what s/he wants to be when s/he grows up.
Of late, however–I’d say within the last year–this talk has become significantly more real and we’ve turned our dreams into realistic planning. We’ve discussed our desires related to all the questions above plus many more. We’ve even come to some conclusions. We’ve learned so much about ourselves and one another and we’re ready to make these dreams reality.
There are so many unknowns, but we are officially moving this part of our lives forward. We are so thankful to have amazing community who support us and we know that we won’t be alone on this journey–nor have we ever been. Much more to come, but it feels so good to “come out” about this.
We’ve spent a good bit of time on infantadoptionguide.com and Adoption Circle‘s websites, but we are very open to input, suggestions, recommendations and resources! If you or anyone you know has information or has gone through adoption (either side) or surrogacy, please let us know. We’re eager to learn and share. :o)